今天上午，在孩子们进入到各个区角活动的时候，几个孩子同时涌到建构区，不一会传来了孩子们争吵的声音：“我想玩这个，我先来的！你要听我的，先玩这个！”“我不喜欢这样！我不想玩这个，我都说了我不想玩！”
原来是Dora和Bob为了怎样玩游戏争得面红耳赤。
This morning, during the activity, several children came into the construction area and soon began to argue: “I want to play here, I came first! Play somewhere else first!” ‘I don’t like it! I don’t want to play, I said I don’t want to play!”
Dora and Bob were arguing about how to play the game.
只见Bob拿着一个积木，嘴里大喊着：“我是怪物，我来吃你啦！”Dora则是捂着耳朵，很不开心的说着“太吵了，这个游戏一点也不好玩。”两个人你一言我一语，谁也不让谁！眼看着就要吵得不可开交，我刚要介入调解，却出现了让我惊喜的一幕。
I saw Bob holding a block, Shouting: “I am a monster, I will eat you!” Dora covered her ears and said angrily, “It’s too loud. This game is not fun.” It was about to get ugly, and I was about to intervene when something surprised me.
在一旁玩玩偶仓鼠的Alisa过来了，她想了想说：“Bob，你要不要和我的小仓鼠玩怪兽游戏，我来和Dora玩做饭游戏。”同时，Brain也想出了办法，跑过来说：“Bob，我来和你玩奥特曼的游戏，行不行？”急于找不到合适玩伴的两个小迷糊一看有了新队友，也立刻同意提议，开开心心地与新的队友各自进行游戏。
Alisa, who had been playing with a stuffed hamster, approached. She thought for a moment and said, “Bob, would you like to play Monster with my hamster while I play cooking with Dora?” Meanwhile, Brain came up to him and said, “Bob, can I play Ultraman with you?” Anxious to find a suitable playmate of the two small confused as soon as they saw a new teammate, also immediately agreed to the proposal, happy to play the game with the new teammate.
甚至过了一会儿，本来分开玩耍的两组因为仓鼠玩偶再次合体，一宝看了看Alisa的仓鼠，也有点想去玩一玩，犹豫好久忍不住了，跑过去和Alisa、Dora说到:”我能摸摸那个仓鼠吗？我可以当怪物来假装去抓它”。Brain灵机一动说到:”那我来当奥特曼保护你们”。Alisa和Dora一听，很愉快的就答应了！很神奇的是这个原本混乱的局面变成了一个新剧情的角色游戏，并且双方兴致更加高昂。
Even after a while, the two groups who had been playing separately merged with the hamster dolls again. Yibo looked at Alisa’s hamster and was a little tempted to play with it. He hesitated for a long time and said to Alisa and Dora, “Can I touch the hamster? I can be a monster and pretend to catch it.” Brain got an idea and said, “I’ll be Ultraman to protect you.” Alisa and Dora happily agreed! It’s amazing that this chaotic situation has turned into a character game with a new storyline, and both sides are more interested.
Small Conflicts
in Relationships
其实，每个孩子都会遇到难题，孩子之间也难免发生争执，我们总是希望孩子能够绕过这些烦恼，并努力为孩子铺平前进的道路。然而我们却忽略了，恰恰就是这些小小的，在日常生活中经常碰到的问题，给了孩子们宝贵的实践学习机会，使他们学会如何与身边人交流合作，学会了如何处理与同伴交往中出现的问题等。
In fact, every child will encounter problems, children will inevitably have disputes, we always hope that children can bypass these troubles. However, these small, often encountered problems in daily life that give children valuable practical learning opportunities, enabling them to learn how to communicate and cooperate with people around them, and how to deal with problems in the relationship with peers.
所以在幼儿发生争执时，我们可以选择，先让幼儿自己想办法解决，解决不了我们再插手教导如何调解矛盾，并教育幼儿要懂得谦让、学会与同伴协商，让她们学会独立处理人际交往的问题与矛盾。
So in children dispute, we can choose, let children to find their own way to solve the problem. In case if they`re not able to solve the problem we intervene to teach how to mediate contradiction, and educate children, teach to negotiate with peers, let them learn to deal with interpersonal problems and contradictions independently.
因此，不妨在发生问题的时候多一份耐心，多一点等待，多给孩子一点解决的空间。让孩子能够施展自己的能力，让孩子学会礼貌交流，学会与人沟通，学会表达自己，并懂得在解决摩擦的过程中互相理解互相帮助，只有让孩子自己不断的去尝试、去思考才能让孩子学习掌握与人交往的技巧，建立起与周围人和谐的关系，这可以让孩子们更加自信，对于孩子一生发展的影响越来越重要。
Therefore, might as well in the occurrence of problems with more patience to give the child a little more chance to solve the problem. Let the child can exert their abilities, let the child learn through polite communication, learn to communicate with people, learn to express themselves, and establish harmonious relationships with people around, this can let the children to improve confidence, The impact on children’s development throughout their lives is very important.
我们应充分利用人、物、时空等各种因素，注重孩子们的日常交往教育，用多样的方式激发孩子的交往兴趣，发展孩子的交往能力，让他们成长为一个身心健康的孩子。
We should pay attention to children’s daily communication education, with a variety of ways to stimulate children’s interest in communication, development of children’s communication ability, let them grow into a healthy member of the society.
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