正面管教工具--- 细小步骤｜Positive Discipline Tool --- small steps

   正面管教里,有一个很核心的理念,叫“ Baby Step”—细小步骤,就像孩子刚学走路时一样,一小步一小步,很慢却稳步地向前走。在孩子小时候,我们愿意弯下腰来,陪着孩子小步小步慢慢地走。随着孩子慢慢长大,面对越来越多的挑战,他们还是用一贯的方式,慢慢地去感受、探索与尝试,直到找到合适的方法。然而,在这个过程中,家长却不再愿意弯下腰来附心地陪伴与帮助孩子,而是希望他们能大踏步向前走,能大刀阔斧地解决问题。面对这些困难与家长给予的压力,很多孩子放弃了尝试,以至于连小步也不愿迈出了。

In frontal discipline, there is a very core concept called “Baby Step”-small steps, just like when a child first learns to walk, one step at a time, one step at a time, slowly but steadily moving forward. When the child was young, we were willing to bend down and walk slowly with the child. As the children grow up and face more and more challenges, they still use the usual way to slowly feel, explore and try until they find a suitable method. However, in this process, parents are no longer willing to bend down to accompany and help their children attentively, but hope that they can make great strides forward and solve problems drastically. Faced with these difficulties and the pressure given by parents, many children give up trying so much and they do not want to take a small step.

    过高的标准,过严的要求,其实是违背人类自然发展规律的。教育,就应该像小孩走路一样,一小步一小步地走,才会更加稳健,也才会让孩子持续地向前走。

Too high standards and strict requirements actually violate the laws of human natural development. Education should be like a child walking, walking step by step, will be more stable, and will allow the child to continue to move forward.

细小步骤这个工具,就是要求我们把任务细化,让孩子体验成功。例如,学龄前儿童学写自己的名字时很吃力。我们可以这样将任务细化:

This small step tool requires us to refine our tasks and let our children experience success. For example, preschool children are struggling to write their own names. We can refine the task like this:

1、示范正确的执笔方法

Demonstrate correct writing method

2、一次写一个笔画,你写一笔,让孩子写一笔。

Write one stroke at a time, you write one stroke, let the children write one stroke.

3、一次写一个笔画,你写一笔,让孩子写一笔。

In the process of writing, improve children skills. For example, when writing horizontally, write from left to right; when writing vertically, write from top to bottom. In the process, don’t do it for them.