教孩子如何处理小摩擦

我们的孩子们是如此的天真可爱，但是不论大人还是孩子在任何的群体中与人产生摩擦是在所难免的， 当孩子间产生不愉快的时候，我们应该有责任的意识到这是很好的引导孩子学习的时候，毕竟在班上学会美好的人际关系是非常重要。
不论在学校还是在家里，对于这个阶段的孩子，老师和家长应该要保持一致的教法，以致孩子能够学习到相同的理念。
当孩子间产生冲突时，我们应该要让他们知道说粗话骂人是不可以的，但是对于三四岁的孩子我们要教他们学会正当的自我防卫，太多的信息会让孩子觉得无所适从，让他们知道一个简单的原则：如果别人打我们，我们也不可以去打别人。
作为老师如果看到孩子间产生的是小摩擦时，不要去介入孩子间的摩擦，此时是孩子学会自我解决问题机会，孩子在亲自处理摩擦过程中会学会如何更好的与人相处，如果老师太早的帮助他们反而妨碍了孩子这方面能力的锻炼。
Our kids are caring and lovely but it’s inevitable in any group (whether kids or adults) that disputes will arise. When a conflict happens, it’s our responsibility to make sure it becomes a learning or teachable moment. After all, a big part of class is figuring out how to get along well with others.
At home or in class, there are some simple steps that should be consistent so that all our children learn the same things. 
If a child touches another child in anger (punch, kick, bite, etc.), we always need to let them know that it is never okay to respond with violence instead of our words. At a certain age it becomes necessary to teach self-defense but for a three- or four-year-old, a mixed message is too confusing. Keep it simple: “We never hit someone, even if he or she hits us.”
We are their role models and teachers but that doesn’t mean we can or should intervene at the first sign of a conflict or disagreement between two children. If you see a situation but it does not look like it is about to become physical or violent, be mindful but give the children a chance to work things out together. Remember, they are practicing their social skills and “helping” too early actually prevents them from internalizing good habits.

Teacher Sherry

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